The process of forgiving, which we all practice, is conditional. We are often preached to “forgive and forget” because the outcome of holding grudges is self-poisoning and self-defeating. This process is all about saving ourselves and has nothing to do with truly forgiving others.

The actual act of forgiving is done under strict conditions dictated by our selfish agendas that simply nurture our egos. For many people, the need to be right and to feel superior through the act of forgiveness is rooted in their inherent insecurity.

The drawback of this self-serving process is that it always leaves a reminder and residue, which is resurrected with the slightest provocation and we live that agony all over again with ever-deepening resentment, pain, and need for vengeance.

It is only through the clarity brought about by Oneness that we begin to see that we are all one, unified by the single, enlivening universal power that gives us life. In light of this enlightening truth, the concept of forgiving doesn’t even arise as we are all one and part of each other. It’s as though while hammering a nail, you hit your left thumb with the hammer. Are you even going to consider forgiving or punishing your right hand? Obviously not because both hands are part of the same body and the pain is experienced by the whole body.

It is important to remember that whenever someone harms you, they are usually guided by highly-contaminated information, prejudices, and deep-seated insecurity that leads to mental and emotional imbalance during the incident. They are completely void of the ultimate truth of Oneness.

It is only in the Oneness paradigm that we can practice unconditional forgiveness. In the process, we have the opportunity to transform and inspire those we’re forgiving by exposing them to their empowered true selves that are already integrated in Oneness.

When we comprehend forgiveness under the wisdom of Oneness, it automatically comes without conditions, limits, preconceptions, expectations, and agendas. When this thought process becomes integrated in us, it gives rise to an essential habit for success, the Habit of unconditional forgiveness